How is married life?
Love,light and laughter |
This is a question I have been answering a lot since October 20th 2012 .
A sense of shared destiny.
The idea that we are doing this together ( I will stay with you - John Legend )
The fact that we are a family that is recognised and
respected under the law is just too awesome.
What I love about being married.
The best thing about married life for me – and this is why
it is a crime against humanity to deny gay people marriage - is going to sleep
and waking up next to and with Toni. In fact I find it impossible to sleep when
she’s not in bed with me.
I also love to shout out to her when in the bathroom and out
of soap, tissue or towel and she will deliver, this is probably one of the best
aspects of married life.
I suppose it can also be seen as a metaphor…
I love the fact that Toni will give me my vitamins and
whatever other concoction she makes me take in the mornings – she’s good with
medication so I don’t really keep up. I love that when I am sick, I will wait
for her to figure out which meds I should take and when – she probably doesn’t
enjoy this part as much as I do.
I love that she knows to turn down the volume of the TV when
the adverts come on, as it drives me crazy for some reason; it’s just awesome
sharing a life with someone who knows you that way.
But the most awesome part about being married is always
having a date, my days of attacking life solo are so not missed, Coming home to
a human woman that I know, love and trust makes life much much easier to take
on.
Oh I love shopping with my wife, she enjoys it better than I
do but if I’m going shopping then it should be with her, especially grocery
shopping. While she gets fruit, I look for drinks, as she stands at one queue I
hunt around for a shorter one, etc. Together the shopping experience becomes
easier, for me anyway.
I could probably go on and on and still not feel like I am
getting the message across properly, but to put it simply, I love having
someone to walk through life with and must say that I chose an awesome human
woman for it.
We live in an age of knowledge yet exist in the world very
basically and instinctually - the same way that a cave person in the middle
ages would I presume have existed in the world, with great caution and fear of
the unknown.
Throughout the history of the world, groups of people have
used whatever weapons at their disposal – religious, tribal, cultural,
traditional, racial, sexual – you name it, to marginalise and limit the rights
of other sometimes smaller but mostly less powerful/equipped/able groups.
At this point in human evolution, you’d think that it would
be clear to everyone by now that the oppressed will rise. I think homophobes
have a few years of grace left before the world tilts on it’s axis for them,
because the best thing about knowledge is that it is power, liberation and
emancipation and one can only keep their head in the sand for so long.